Most of life is like this too-- at times good, and time bad, constantly changing. Which begs the question, how does one stay positive? When life seems to be an unsettled jostle, how does one find serenity, optimism, and peace? When life is jeeringly states, "Why try to be happy? It won't last!" What does one do to not fall prey to life's provocation?
Well, I can tell you what I do. This is a challenge that I personally wrestle, and as such, I have deduced a two answers through my struggle.
1. Allow yourself to feel what you need to feel. I am a huge proponent of this concept. I believe that sadness has importance, and that it is a crucial emotion for us to experience-- even to cherish. Obviously if your blueness is prolonged, seek further help-- don't revel in sadness forever. That being said, revel in it for a time. Chances are, if you accept that you're feeling morose, you'll be able to move forward more quickly than if you deny it. Like they say, "The first step is admitting it." This is true! Accept that you're feeling melancholy, and realize that there is validity in what you're feeling. You aren't worthless because of this feeling, and you aren't to be ashamed of it. Celebrate the feeling, because it signifies that you're alive and that you're human. Most likely, you need to be sad right now, as part of your healing-- allow yourself to be what you need to be and to feel what you need to feel.
2. Apply the Golden String Theory. This theory has countless different titles, but this is my favorite. Essentially this theory states that "Whatever happens, happens. If it's meant to work out, it will." Its general premise is that you are connected to the people you're meant to be with, we'll call them "soul people," and that you cannot be disconnected from these soul people for any reason. Because you're permanently strung to these people, and them to you, you will eventually find each other. The connection cannot be broken, and thus, because it's meant to work out, it will. I believe the theory also applies to experiences-- if you're meant to experience something you will. To quote the person I first learned this theory from, Mika Paulson via Instagram, "Red string theory: An invisible red thread connects those who are supposed to meet; regardless of time, place, or circumstance. The thread may stretch or tangle but it will never break." Remember this, and take comfort. Be open to the fate the universe holds for you.
And so, as life shuttles you up and ushers you down, I encourage you to remember these things, and to find your own answers to the question of true happiness. Despite it all, I believe that life is good, and that I am going to big, big things with my time on this planet. And you know what? I believe you will too.
